With Divorce rates for Boomers (those born between the years of 1946 and 1964) on a steady increase, there is a need for unique issues, priorities and choices to be included in your divorce agreement.The wording of the agreement is likely to have significant consequences not only for you but for “extended family” and life long friends.
1. Unlike litigation, your mediator(s) will discuss the underlying reasons for the divorce of this long term marriage
In order to allow the couple to make good and informed decisions, a good mediator will have the parties examine their underlying feelings that led to the divorce so these feelings don’t prevent logical decision making and communication to take place. Some common feelings for “Boomers” are resentment, anger, hopelessness and a sense of failure.
2. Mediators will discuss the Financial impact on the couple going forward
A mediator has the flexibility to have the couple examine their finances, see that they are educated about their current and possible future financial situation, “try on” various options and determine how they would like their lives to continue. Rather than focusing on how a court will divide assets, liabilities and cash flow, a good mediator will look for common interests and then help the parties craft a plan that will satisfy those interests and also stay within the boundaries of what courts will think is fair.
3. Mediators will discuss the emotional impact of the divorce on their adult children and grandchildren
Unlike an attorney representation, a mediator will examine how their decisions about their divorce may emotionally impact them as individuals, their grown children, their grandchildren, their extended family on both sides, and their lifelong common friends. In addition, a good mediator will discuss how to deal with these changes, how to move on, how to relate to one other after the divorce, how to both enjoy their grandchildren and their common friends.
4. Mediators will discuss Retirement, Social Security, and Insurance
A good mediator, especially a certified divorce financial analyst (CDFA) with financial know-how will help the parties discuss and understand their collective retirement plans, pension plans, Social Security, other Public Benefits, and Insurances (life,disability and long term care). These matters are often quite significant for this age group. Mediators may suggest a referral to appropriate professionals for further review and discussion as necessary.
5. Mediators will provide a post divorce checklist
A good mediator will provide the couple with a list of matters to think about and take care of after the divorce is final. This list may include completing new wills, health care directives, estate planning and financial planning. Also on the list will be support groups, ways to resolve future disagreements short of court intervention, spiritual and emotional resources, all of these resources geared to this “Boomer couple” and their collective and individual needs.
Contact a Divorce Mediation Attorney at Baron Law & Mediation, LLP of North Andover
Are you looking for professional and experienced gray divorce mediation attorneys in Lawrence, Methuen, Andover, Haverhill, Middleton, and other areas in the North Shore and Merrimack Valley? If so, contact Baron Law & Mediaton, LLP today. We offer flexible times and our office is located conveniently in the heart of North Andover. Baron Law & Mediation is also unique in having a male – female team to help you and your spouse mediate divorce as smoothly as possible. That also means by paying the price for one attorney, you will get the help of two attorneys. Contact us at 978.674.8530 for your initial consult.