False Starts are Costly- Both Emotionally and Financially
If you are considering divorce, and haven't checked out divorce mediation, it is not too late.
This method, divorce mediation, is thought by our clients to be healthy, civilized & cost-effective. In fact, our clients have told us they felt "guilty" when they've attended the mandated parenting program, as compared to their fellow classmates, because their
chosen process, "divorce mediation", is so smooth and amicable.
5 Initial Questions for Couples Looking into Divorce Mediation:
1. Do you think you would be able to sit with a Mediator and your spouse and be able to express your goals, interests and concerns, without holding back on what you think is important?
It is essential for each party to be able to express what is important to them. The safe mediation space is the time, and place, to say what your position/preference is on a particular issue and why you have that position. It is easier than you might think when there are mediators in the room, giving you the confidence to "stand" behind your ideas.
You might as well learn now, as it will become the new normal moving forward through the process of divorce.
2. Would you be able to listen to the goals, interests and concerns of your spouse with an open mind?
During mediation sessions, each party has an opportunity to talk and it is very important that during this time, the other party really listens to what is being said, and why it is being said. That is part of figuring out how things will unfold and doing so in a way that works for all involved. We have seen a degree of respectful communication begin to develop, during the course of our mediation sessions, that had not been presented even during the marriage of the parties.
3. Do you trust your spouse to disclose all relevant financial information?
A level of trust is essential to have, as it relates to disclosing all assets and liabilities, whether jointly or solely held. Everything must be put on the table to allow for full discussion and result in an agreement that each party believes is fair. Actually, we find this is not a problem in almost all cases but as mediators we are aware of the issue and make sure the process is "fair for both parties".
4. Are you interested in reaching a fair agreement, one that will work for each party now and well into the future?
Fact is: For a mediation to be successful, parties need to come in wanting an agreement that is fair under the circumstances. Mediation is not a process for parties who basically want a win-lose situation with a divorce agreement that is clearly lopsided. Those looking for an edge or a win-lose situation are not welcome.
5. Are you willing to discuss various options and possible scenarios as may be necessary in order to reach agreements on all issues?
Some topics require more time and consideration. In order to reach agreements on all the issues, there will be times when various options need to be considered in order to figure out the scenario that will work out best for each party involved. Because the interaction is direct and immediate, the time to obtain the data and consider the options is very quick.
Schedule a Free Initial Divorce Mediation Meeting
At Baron Law & Mediation, we can help you with your divorce mediation sessions. Contact us to schedule a confidential consultation. We offer flexible scheduling to accommodate your busy lifestyle. Weekend and evening appointments are available upon request. If you are in need of experienced divorce mediator, please call us today at 978.674.8530.
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